Why blogger Andrew Jones is my new best friend.

I recently began a series responding to Andrew Jones’ article, Nine Reasons NOT to plant churches. Andrew contacted me and I felt our exchange might be of interest to you.

Andrew: thanks Dave. good points.

“but I also am not sure what an “itinerant social entrepreneur” is . . ”

yeah I am still working that one out also but some of the countries i visit have a problem with the term “Christian missionary” so I am trying something else on for size.

btw, I am not sure what patellar is but I am sure this post really is as patellar as you say it is.


Dave: My friend Andrew,

I was hoping to make contact with you, because I wanted to be able to clearly share my heart with you. In order to do so, please allow me to share with you my Journal entry from this morning:

Apparently Jon Reid knows the author of an article I have chosen to critique in a series of blog posts. Jon said he was going to send this man a link so he could know and could respond to what I said. John said, “Ah, my two friends battling it out.” I immediately felt insecure and uncomfortable. 1st, I don’t want to “battle it out” with anyone. 2nd, I am using his article to address some widely held beliefs about the church and church planting that I feel need to be thought through rather than automatically accepted as truth. So this is not directed to him, but to this “thought” out there and those who might be accepting it before learning of another perspective. 3rd, I don’t want there to be someone out there who does not like me especially since so many find it difficult to like someone we are in disagreement with. 4th, I do not want to be drawn into an all-too-familiar debate, banter, and contemptuous way of exchanging ideas that is so common among believers today. 5th, I am painfully aware that my pride and arrogance make me susceptible to being one who exchanges ideas sarcastically with an air of contempt, and that man is one I want to move away from rather than towards.

With all due respect and love,


ps. Today I hope to post a second response but if doing so in any way bothers you I will be more than happy to cease.

Andrew: thanks Dave. You sound like a wonderful guy and I appreciate your politeness. I will have a read of your second post when i get a chance.

Thanks for your input. Hopefully it will give me more balance.

Dave: Thanks my friend and I give you permission to tell me if I ever come across any way but polite. Everyone has blind spots and it’s the blind spots that often sabotage our relationships. I wouldn’t want anything to sabotage our relationship no matter how embryonic it currently is. Peace.

Journal entry the next morning:

I was very surprised that I received a very friendly note from the author I referred to in my previous entry. I immediately wrote back sharing with him the exact words of my journal entry which I felt expressed my heart which I greatly wanted him to see. He wrote back that he “appreciated my politeness”. I wrote back giving him permission to point out to me any time he recognizes anything but politeness in me since polite is one thing I want to be known for.

Perhaps in the future, when and if I have a need to respond to something, I will choose to omit the person’s name, endeavor to be polite, and therefore not feed the unkind, arrogant banter that all too often infects and overshadows the exchange of thoughts and differences that will always be found among brothers. Or, better yet, feel no need to respond at all.

I have decided to end my series on Andrew’s article and quit while I’m ahead.

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