When There Is Someone In Your Church Who Is Causing You Grief


If I saw you as God sees you what would I see? If you saw me as God sees me what would you see? If you saw that person in your church that is causing you grief as God sees them what would you see?

Is there someone in your church that is hurting you, resisting your leadership, opposing you, saying bad things about you? If not presently certainly there has been such a person in your past and there will certainly be one in your future. One of the frustrating things about Jesus is that he asks us to do the seemingly impossible. Want an example? How about, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

It’s hard to lead without love. It’s hard to love someone who is acting in an unlovable way towards you, your spouse, your family, or your church. How then can we do what Christ has asked of us? Where can we start?

I’m not going to pretend that this will be easy but if we can see that person as God sees them we will (or God will) have something to build upon. Ask yourself, “If I saw _____ as God sees him how would I see him?” Ask God, “Father, how do you see _____?”

What do you see, what do you hear the Father saying to you?

God is love. God loves that person who is causing trouble for you. This does not justify their behavior or minimize how they are making you feel but it is a Divine perspective that we can forget and one we will need to remember if we are going to move towards love rather than away. Seeing people as God sees them is the first step towards love.

Are you willing to take that first step? There will be other steps, you might need to confront and correct that person, but don’t worry about those steps yet. Just take the first step.