Arguing doesn’t work. It is pointless. The only thing an argument does is make someone angry or hurt. The same is true with debating. You might win the debate but in so doing you create a loser. No one wants to be a loser. You’ve won but forced someone else to become something they don’t want to be. Arguing and debating draws a line in the sand and eventually sand ends up in someone’s eyes.
Some pastors seem to enjoy arguing and debating and kicking sand in the eyes of those they disagree with. I want none of that. Jesus already pointed out that sand is a poor foundation.
Some pastors are so bold and brave on Facebook and on blogs. This seldom changes their opponent’s mind. All such things do is reveal who is on their side and who is not. Ultimately no one has grown on either side, no one has learned, has changed. Hurt and pain grows, but not much more than that. I don’t want to be that kind of Pastor.
This reminds me of Paul’s advice to Timothy when selecting elders in the church. “Don’t pick anyone who is addicted to wine or pugnacious (loves a good fight, quarrelsome, one who leaves a bruise), but look for one who is gentle and peaceable.” I Tim. 3:3
That’s the type of pastor I want to be.